add LAN service discovery via UDP multicast

Numa instances on the same network auto-discover each other's .numa
services. No config, no cloud — just multicast on 239.255.70.78:5390.

- PeerStore with lazy expiry (90s timeout, 30s broadcast interval)
- DNS resolves remote .numa services to peer's LAN IP (not localhost)
- Proxy forwards to peer IP for remote services
- Graceful degradation if multicast bind fails

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>

Cargo.lock

@@ -621,7 +621,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "libc",
  "percent-encoding",
  "pin-project-lite",
- "socket2",
+ "socket2 0.6.3",
  "tokio",
  "tower-service",
  "tracing",
@@ -946,6 +946,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "rustls",
  "serde",
  "serde_json",
+ "socket2 0.5.10",
  "time",
  "tokio",
  "tokio-rustls",
@@ -1062,7 +1063,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "quinn-udp",
  "rustc-hash",
  "rustls",
- "socket2",
+ "socket2 0.6.3",
  "thiserror 2.0.18",
  "tokio",
  "tracing",
@@ -1099,7 +1100,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "cfg_aliases",
  "libc",
  "once_cell",
- "socket2",
+ "socket2 0.6.3",
  "tracing",
  "windows-sys 0.60.2",
 ]
@@ -1407,6 +1408,16 @@ version = "1.15.1"
 source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
 checksum = "67b1b7a3b5fe4f1376887184045fcf45c69e92af734b7aaddc05fb777b6fbd03"
 
+[[package]]
+name = "socket2"
+version = "0.5.10"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "e22376abed350d73dd1cd119b57ffccad95b4e585a7cda43e286245ce23c0678"
+dependencies = [
+ "libc",
+ "windows-sys 0.52.0",
+]
+
 [[package]]
 name = "socket2"
 version = "0.6.3"
@@ -1566,7 +1577,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "libc",
  "mio",
  "pin-project-lite",
- "socket2",
+ "socket2 0.6.3",
  "tokio-macros",
  "windows-sys 0.61.2",
 ]